Whoa! Finally, our first year anniversary. Depending from your perspective, it could either be long or short but does it really matter? I don’t think that it’s about the number of years that you’re together but more about the quality of your relationship. On how you resolved the challenges of your relationship, on how you see each other at the end of the day, on how you think that the relationship is more valuable than your individual differences, on how you choose to forgive and love each other after every fight.
Another learning worth sharing is that you don’t have to necessarily change for the one that you love especially if it involves your personal traits but you can grow up; you can choose to be mature so you can meet halfway with your partner. You can still be the feisty and nagging individual up to a point but for the sake of growing and protecting your relationship, you always have the choice to temper such toxic traits because the relationship is not just about you. It’s about you and your partner who are both unique and imperfect individuals but have the same expectations…to be happy and have a meaningful relationship. It’s a two-way traffic. Do not expect to always get what you want without your partner resenting you not unless your partner has made you the center of his or her universe or that he or she loves you to a fault.
Personally, I don’t think that I am an ideal partner… I am so flawed not to add my tendency to overthink about a lot of things. I nitpick a lot and I do nag. I have high expectations (not about material things) from my partner about how he should treat me only to realize, after several energy-draining fights, that I have no control on how he treats me. That I can only hope…or that I can only tell him about what I expect from him. Afterwards, the ball is already on his hands…would he satisfy my expectations or do better? Again, I can only wait and move on from such consuming dilemma. And what next? Start appreciating what he has done for our relationship so far. He stayed and was so patient during my difficult days. Instead of countering my beast mode with godzilla rebuttals, he’d be patient and calm most of the time. And whenever I whine about my physical imperfections, he would just assure me that I am beautiful. These and all of the small gestures of care and love, you have to appreciate and remember them when you are hurdling challenges in your relationship.
With our first year anniversary, I can still say that I still have a lot of growing up to do when it comes to our relationship but I think that I am getting better. I am also engaging myself in a lot of activities that stimulates my mind so I would not fall prey to overthinking. As they say, it is on our individual selves to always choose to be happy.
Enough with the preaching. Let us move on to the brighter side. Since it has been so long since we last saw each other (that was May this year), we decided to meet up in Davao City which is more or less three hours from where I live. I took the bus. Meanwhile, Mr. Handsome flew from Cebu City to Davao. We really didn’t plan the nitty-gritty of the trip…we just decided to meet up and you know, just took it from there. It was a memorable trip of continuously discovering about each other’s habits, likes, and dislikes. One thing’s for sure though, we both like the cuisine of Roadhouse, we actually enjoyed driving around (despite the scalding heat) the island of Samal using a motorcycle, that I am more of a beach person and him a mountain person, and that we really liked staying indoors to cuddle and just do our own thing.
So cheers and flowers for our first year anniversary! And to that moment wherein we can really be together! Enough with this long distance relationship.
